I've mentioned in previous posts how people tend to express the anger and frustration they feel with THEMSELVES toward those closest to them. It was pointed out to me by someone I greatly respect that many people just don't express their anger. Period. It's all turned inward. That was something I hadn't give a lot of thought to, but obviously, she's right.
I'm not going to lie and say I understand this personality trait. I know it can run the spectrum from just keeping some feelings hidden to keeping practically everything hidden. It can be just anger issues but I suspect it's primarily any feeling that would leave the person feeling open and vulnerable. The first thing that comes to mind is "fear of rejection." In that sense I don't believe the two personality types are very different. In the folks who direct their feelings to those closest to them they know these people are "safe." These people are chosen because they won't reject the individual. So both types fear rejection. One just has a circle of trust built and established that the other either doesn't have or, most likely, won't have.
In order to have close relationships in this life we have to trust. We have to be able to open up to another. We also need to safely allow others to open up to us; provide their safe haven. Alone and lonely - that's not living. I firmly believe the saying that "Nothing worth having comes easy."
Love. Live.
The weekend's in sight! Enjoy!
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